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You have to admire the ingenuity here but to go and make a meatcake…….???! Ai carrumba senor!

Just go and check this mincemeatcake recipe out. Ugh, Ugh and Ugh!

[Thanks Aquila!]

So, you are feeling down in the dumps and have just ended a relationship and are feeling as bad as a rusty paraffin tin filled with guilt for ending it or causing the break-up and now you cannot make a decision about which path to take. You can’t decide if you should push ahead like a bull in a china shop and stop yourself from thinking about the ‘why and when and what went wrong’ by completing everything on your To Do list and keeping busy, busy, busy or if you should take time out and do what your mind and body is telling you is the right thing to do.

Am I correct in thinking that you have not yet asked nor given yourself permission to be gentle with yourself? It is so important at these times to ask if rushing around like a bull in a china shop is the right way or should you just step back from the action and give yourself the space and time to heal. You may have let it become a flip of a coin process when in fact you should take time out to let yourself grieve and heal and regain your vitality and energy to move on with your life. As a friend of mine says, you need to ask yourself what will make you feel so much WORSE if I don’t do this or get that done.

Here’s what I recommended my friend Virginia should do whenever she feels lower than shark muck:

1. Sit in a comfy chair, relax, close your eyes, breathe in deeply and breathe out slowly through your nose while recognising that you only have limited resources to tackle all the items on your To Do list. Accept that you only have two hands, limited energy levels and only so much motivation to see you complete all the jobs on the list.

2. Accept that this day is not going to be one of your better days and so will allow those other days when you were highly productive, to stand out as excellent and bright examples of what you can achieve.

3. While remaining in your comfy chair, take a moment to focus on your breathing and notice the rhythm your breathing has adopted as your chest slowly rises and falls as you breathe in and out. And while you are relaxed, think about your job list and begin to prune all the jobs that do not need to be done now. Try to leave only those jobs that would make you feel worse if they did not get done.

4. After selecting the essential jobs, summon up all your energies, square up to the jobs at hand and go to it. Yes, get them done then go back to bed.

There is no point in trying to do anything else today because you have asked and given yourself permission to be kind to yourself. You told you that it is OK to not be rough on you, so stop gawking at this and go back to bed and begin healing.

Shoo. Go. Get out of my face. It’s OK. Shoo!

Factoids:

1. The meteor known as KT that impacted Earth a good few million years back, had the explosive energy of 100 million megatonnes of bombs.

2. James Lawrence Powell notes that if a bomb, such as the size of the one exploded at Hiroshima, was exploded for every person alive on the planet today, you’d still be about a billion bombs short of the KT impact.

3. The meteor impacted in a sea area where the rocky floor was very rich in sulphur. The impact created a giagantic “aerosol” of sulphuric acid the size of Belgium. Acid rain that burnt skin resulted.

4. How did coral and algae survive the very long nuclear winter? They need sunlight to survive.

5. Why did bees survive when the entire dinosaur species was wiped out?

6. Crocodiles (alligators) and other reptiles survived too. Why?

[Thanks to Bill Bryson's book: "A short History of Nearly Everything"]